About
About
Firstly, this is an adult content weblog. It talks about things some people may find upsetting or disturbing. Please bear in mind that we are perverts or to be more P.C. we are very open-minded and have the mental flexibility to enjoy these activities.
This weblog is about a male to female transexual who has both a normal and a kinky relationship with her boyfriend. The emphasis is on the kinky side although I also talk about how having a dual life can be interesting, rewarding and challenging.
The main topics of this weblog are:
Fetishism - using objects such as shoes as sex toys or objects of worship.
Erotic Dominance - in this case I am the dominant and I use my assets and talents to dominate, humiliate and control my willing slave and partner. Often called D/s for Dominance and submission.
Sadism - the act of causing somebody else pain, be it emotional or physical. Two things about this - one, you should do it safely and research everything about what you want to do, be it flogging someone or psychological mind games; and two, you should only do it to a willing masochist. If you don’t follow these basic laws of respect you are an idiot and a common thug.
Bondage and discipline - Bondage is basically restricting someone’s movement physically in any way, usually with straps and other devices. Discipline is behavior modification to make someone feel more humble. The two are associated because they both work together to enforce the power exchange, the feeling of the dominant’s soaring control and the submissive’s downward spiral of humility and servitude.
FAQ
Q: What is a transexual? Are you a man or a woman?
A: Biologically I was born male; psychologically, emotionally and spiritually I am female. From a social point of view I am regarded as on the fringe, a gender outcast. I have a good looking feminine body but often appear somewhat androgynous, though I would like to go down the route of taking hormones as soon as possible.
Q: Are you a naturally dominant woman?
A: I don’t really know the exact answer to this. I was a leader as a child, but had a mixed up and chaotic upbringing which really knocked the wind out of me. I was an introverted but creative and influential teenager and finally came out as transgendered and later as a kinkster after the age of about 21, at which stage I began reclaiming my self-confidence. I guess I am a hodgepodge of strengths and insecurities just like everybody else.
Q: Are you a man hater?
A: Categorically NO! I hate most men and women equally ;). Dominance isn’t about ‘getting one over on the opposite sex’. If that’s a dominant’s prime motivation, I would recommend a rethink, pronto.
Q: Is it safe to lick the soles of boots or shoes?
A: It would appear just about as safe as crossing the road, if not safer. From all the people I have come into contact with on the Internet that do it (and that’s a LOT), I have not heard one case of damaged health or even mild sickness. I generally make sure there are no very obnoxious substances (like dog shit) residing on my footwear before allowing him to do this, but not every shoe dominant does this. Finally, I make sure a powerful germ-killing mouthwash is used moments afterwards.
Q: Why would you want the man you love to suffer and be degraded?
A: Because it feels good for me and good for him, and because there are therapeutic qualities about it for both of us.
Q: Do you constantly dominate your boyfriend?
A: No. We have normal time and ‘scene time’. During the normal time I do not really dominate him. I may be bossy sometimes, and I enjoy his chivalry towards me, and I may be sexually dominant in a vanilla way (getting on top of him, suggesting he lick my bare feet etc), but the total domination state only happens when we both agree to do a ‘scene’.
See my slave Richard’s about page.