Watching BDSM on TV with My Parents
• BDSM Happenings
A couple of nights ago there was a program on TV which is part of a series called “The Dark Side of Modern Love”. This episode was on erotic asphyxiation, and told four gruesome stories of people who had accidentally killed their playmates/partners through this practice.
It was fairly well made, not showing kinky people as inherently ‘wrong’ - in fact, it was positive in it’s attitude towards most of the ‘players’. As it happens strangulation is not just a fetish - it’s a physiological key to instant orgasm augmentation. I’m not going to try it because apparently many vanilla people get sucked into it and it leads to bigger risk-taking. All it takes is a tiny tear in the throat caused by ‘manhandling’ and you have a potential blood clot in your brain (according to medical experts, anyway).
Anyway, it was interesting and kind of reassuring to note the reactions of my parents. They seemed to like three of the four dominants portrayed. The only one they didn’t like was the same one I didn’t, a male professional dominatrix who managed to be distracted by a phone call for 50 minutes while his sub was left in some kind of asphyxiation bondage, and who dealt with the whole thing in a flippant kind of way, trying to dispose of the body and even recalling the event in a cocky sort of way.
This means it’s likely they won’t have a problem with BDSM and fetishism in general, since the program went into a lot of detail in this area despite being specifically about strangulation and breath play.
All in all it was quite an enjoyable program and Jay Wiseman (of SM101 fame) even came on to discourage people from strangling eachother too much :)
I have to admit I enjoyed watching a few of the D/s couples in a few places. Are there any hardcore strangulation/breath play fans about? Despite the warnings, some people still practice this, despite it being medically like a game of Russian roulette (albeit with more chambers in the barrel)? Maybe some people think it is safe or they have found a safe way of doing it?