Advice for Starting with Trampling
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Richard found the term ‘trampling’ alarming and I prefer to say ‘walking on’ somebody. Not only does it sound sexier (and have a verbal connection with getting used) but it also sounds safer. Trampling denotes senselessness, a noisy and destructive footfall destroying everything in it’s wake. Whilst this might appeal to some on a fantasy level, it doesn’t set up the reality very well.
I am no expert at trampling but the best advice I can give is to be very cautious. To start with stand on your rug with only one foot and press down in various places so your feet can map out the different textures and get a feel for every part of his body - have the other foot on the (inanimate) floor. Use only your bare feet or hose (though bare feet are of course best in terms of friction, I think).
Have something to hold onto such as some tall furniture or door and use this for support, especially when you work up to using both feet. Only step on places you’d whip. I also am in the habit of dividing the body laterally in half and not standing on the middle line that represents the spine on either side of the body except the belly area. Also be aware of joints such as knees and elbows.
I never step down hard on the throat or back of the neck, and I’d advice you watch the person’s face when you stand on his stomach. Areas marked unsafe for trampling can still be stepped on, you just make sure you won’t be sending your weight down there. To me trampling is more about the geometry and psychology (he’s under your feet) rather than any kind of physical crushing!
It’s not totally uncommon for me to get off of Richard (not too quickly) sometimes when I see a certain look. This look will be obvious if it happens - it is fear of imperilment :)
Basically this is, as far as I can see, all stuff that will be obvious to any self-respecting dominant. I automatically begin sensing what is under my feet and sensing through them more and this can be part of the erotic experience.
Obviously with shoes with a heel you need to keep your weight forwards on the toe most of the time and avoid rocking back. Encourage your rug to develop a more muscular build - it makes it much easier for the both of you.
I’m sure I haven’t covered everything but I’ve never had a problem trampling Richard - I’m just very careful and don’t let my safety-consciousness get in the way of the mood. I do find it quite physically demanding at times so I alternate it with other related activities.
Probably the best place to talk about trampling… sorry, walking on people, is Mistress Destiny’s Femdom Forum: http://www.mistressdestiny.com/forums/ which specializes in trampling and facesitting. Many of the guys are experts but this also gives them a different perspective to must of us (namely: more hardcore) and hence I find some people’s advice to be too ‘extreme’ :).
To R: I hope this helps in some way. If you have any specific questions I’ll do my best to answer them. There may be some points I have missed.
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Thanks very much for the suggestions. I actually joined Mistress Destiny’s forums yesterday; I was very surprised that they don’t cover something like this in an FAQ, so I’ve asked.
This is one activity where I’ve had to pretty much just bone up on the anatomy and try it. This is contrary to my general problemsolving approach, which is essentially to hit the library (or the WWW and on-line networks of used bookstores).
Posted by: R | January 6, 2007 9:39 PM
Have you found the forums helpful? (I did not.)
Posted by: Richard | January 6, 2007 10:18 PM
I don’t know yet. We’ll see if any of them answer my questions about trampling for beginners.
A lot of them like to post about encouraging newbie women to step on them, but no details about how these women are encouraged are given.
It’s possible that the women aren’t given any helpful details and the men just get injured sometimes.
Posted by: R | January 6, 2007 10:33 PM
A lot of the men don’t want to give helpful details, because they feel that subtracts from the ‘realness’ of being at the mercy of their friend/girlfriend/whatever’s feet.
Actually a little bit selfish if you ask me.
Good luck, R, I just find a lot of caution and common sense is all you really need.
Posted by: Alexandra | January 7, 2007 9:29 PM