BDSM Timetable
• BDSM Practices
The past few nights have seen Richard and myself chatting until late in the morning (my time). We discuss many things, and often the subject is naturally our future sex life. Actually we were on the subject of whippings that cause excessive skin weeping and draw some blood. I commented that it would take a lot of practice to develop the level of skill required to get to this stage safely.
Then the rather obvious idea of having fixed practice sessions came into my mind, and it struck me that it was utterly insane that we hadn’t arranged this before! One area where I seem to lack confidence at times is in initiating play, but often once I got going with even something simple such as informal sadomasochism, I would build up steam and take the session elsewhere.
It’s all too easy to worry if the other party is ‘up to it’, in the right mood or fear rejection and the like - even when most of the time we both want it deep down. So when I arrive this time we’ve pretty much decided that we will have set times during the week set aside for the assumption that I will practice simple skills such as flogging. After all, some of our best nights started out with me almost shyly asking if pet would be up to a bit of target practice…
I really think this is going to make a huge difference to our frequency of play, since it completely sidesteps the initiation phase of playing - having it presupposed that we should be playing at certain times. I can imagine myself having fun at times where I might have found reason to just continue watching films or listening to music when I could have been doing something more ‘productive’!
I’m really excited about this simple idea. I feel more assured already, just thinking about it. And I honest to Goddess can’t think why we didn’t impliment it earlier. We are thinking that four times a week would be a good place to start.
Comments
In some old Warner Brothers cartoons there are two mice: Alphonse and Gaston. They spend so much time being so polite to each other they are in danger of getting eaten by the cat.
This I think will let us make the most of the precious time we are allowed to share.
Posted by: Richard | October 13, 2006 9:02 PM