Affirmations Followup
• Evolution of Our Relationship
While I was quite excited about pet’s new affirmations, when I revealed them to him he didn’t really get the idea behind most of them. They didn’t work for him. We talked a lot about what I was trying to achieve with the affirmations, which are basically statements of how Richard percieves himself anyway, but put into a mild D/s context with me as his Goddess.
Nevertheless, he is saying all of the affirmations, despite not ‘feeling’ them, and for that I thank him. Now I don’t know whether to tell him to stop saying them (put him out of his misery) or to continue to have him say them for my own pleasure. Telling someone what to do is easy but telling them what to think is a totally different space, one that I think will take more negotiation with pet in future.
We haven’t come off bad from this, since this spurred on a lot of interesting conversations between us, and I got to the bottom of some of my feelings regarding my D/s orientation.
I’m thinking of posting some slightly edited versions of our chats so you can see how crazy I really am and how freaky we are sometimes!…. (I’m kidding….. Sorta).
Comments
When he’s saying them, if he isn’t really “getting” why you want him to say them, perhaps as you mention he could focus at least some on the fact that it’s making you happy for him to do this and for him to strive to change his mindset in some areas. Even though we don’t always think so, the subconscious mind hears even when the conscious mind disagrees.
Many people are skeptical about things like this, but take out the D/s twist and this is a common therapeutic intervention. I remember have low self-esteem clients do “mirror exercises”. (Stand in front of the mirror twice a day and say three good things about yourself.) Often in the beginning they couldn’t even think of one “good thing” and would require assistance from me to complete the list. They felt silly and thought the exercise was a ridiculous waste of time, but eventually they began to buy more and more into what they were saying.
Obviously this isn’t a magic dart, but it’s a great component to add to the other things you do :)
Say it, think it, believe it.
Posted by: Lady Julia | February 9, 2007 12:09 AM