Pacing
• Evolution of Our Relationship
You may or may not be wondering why I’d wait for something I want rather than just beat Richard into submission. Again, you have to factor in that BDSM is just a slice of our relationship. I’m not a Dominatrix - they have different goals and perform a different role. Given that Richard was sexually damaged by his last relationship, there is a fine line between making my needs known and being too pushy.
For a while I erred on the side of caution, understating any of my expectations for change and waiting for the eventual percolation of his true submissive-erotic nature. This probably grated at part of me a little more than I would have liked, but it seemed the most emotionally intuitive thing to do.
Eventually I decided a small rocking of the boat would and should be all it took for the dynamics to kick back in, and really that was my responsibility as the Dominant. Sure enough, it was all it took for things to snap back into place.
Not only can I read my pet like a book, but it’s a well-written book. The more I read, the more it turns me on.
Comments
Isn’t that a wonderful feeling? A small hint here and there is sometimes the best way to elicit the reaction one desires.
Myles
Posted by: Myles | February 4, 2006 2:30 PM
Yes, certainly one of the rewards of the job :)
Maybe beating him into submission can come later as a reward :)
Posted by: Alexandra | February 4, 2006 6:15 PM
Pacing: I understand why you pace Richard. To retrain a person’s way of thinking takes time. It sounds to me like a Dominatrix who knows what she is doing. Smirks Even though you say you’re not a Dominatrix. But slowly they come around to your way of thinking. Rock that boat. For me this is ok, to be selfish in what I want from my little sissy wife. I think you said you and Richard are at this time online and dealing with a past relationship. We all have this fun baggage to empty out. It takes time, even years, to move forward. Just keep up the good work and move towards the next plateau. PS: Why does your website say “transgendered”?:
Happy blogging Bossy
Posted by: Bossy | February 10, 2006 5:00 AM