Most Intense Unfulfilled Fantasy
• Fantasy and Fiction
In a recent-ish entry, my pet asks the audience what their most intense unfulfilled fantasy is. Mine is a perfect trampling scene and it feels like a pure unfiltered essence of sensual abstraction, objectificative sadism and playful cruelty. While there are many more detailed and involved fantasies floating around in my brain, this one resonates with something primal in me that connects to infinity in a way which is second only to what happens within loving domination with a real lover.
Like many great things, much of it is mental, using space to extend the idea of insignificance into a real manifestation of that feeling - this is more important than the pain and in fact pain should be contolled to make room for the other aspects in the experience.
Quoting myself:
Probably my most extatic fantasy is extreme objectification and trampling someone who would find it very exciting, using a proper trampling setup probably found in fetish clubs so that I could operate within his comfort zone without having to worry about balance and other issues.
Sometimes there is a hole so that my heels dig into his skin, sometimes it’s covered over so that my weight pushes down on the whole board, flattening him. Ideally there is a small hole so he can watch me from the vantage point of an insignificant ant.
Disbelief must be suspended for the fantasy to really work, so an effort has to be made to keep it spontaneous and not contrived - this is my problem with a lot of contempory crush and trample fetish productions. In fairness I think there are certain things that work for me and that is my unique take on this fantasy.
I like to wear clothes that are sensual and revealing. The more raw sexual attraction there is, the more intensely he wants to feel his insignificance in my wake. My comfort should contrast with his discomfort.
Finally, the location of the human floor is vitally important. Ideally it needs to be somewhere where I have plenty of reasons to cross or stand at.
An afterthought.
Although Richard wasn’t born with any sort of trampling fetish, I can easily incorporate him into this fantasy because he’s expressed the same desire to go there that a fetishist would. He has spoken of the process of fetish acquisition which seems to be part of his reality, though I have also begun to feel the urge to try new things such as hot wax (to give just one instant example I was thinking of last night).
Comments
Responding only to the last part. It makes me so very happy to find myself able to please you in ways that I thought might be beyond me.
Posted by: Richard | March 1, 2006 5:05 PM
It is interesting that You are discovering one of the most compelling aspects of Dominance: the transfer of the Dominant’s fetish interest and desires to the submissive.
It’s often said that in Power Excahnge there is an agreement and collaboration between the Dominant and submissive. Each brings ideas, desires and fantasies to the table.
i believe the wise Dominant takes the submissive’s needs and desires into account, using them, incorporating them in the tableaux. If the sub’s interests are not exactly the Dominant’s “cup of tea” She will still make use of them, knowing that as infatuation sets in, and builds to devotion, She can ease out of areas that don’t push Her buttons, refining the interplay to areas that truly express Her interests, and thereby reforming the submissive, making him into what She wants him to be.
Posted by: tamehorse | March 5, 2006 9:15 PM