Confounded By His Compliance?
• Fetishes
Fetishes and kinks are funny things. When Richard said he was developing a shoe fetish in response to our interactions, I certainly wasn’t disappointed, nor did I disbelieve him. But there was initially something that didn’t feel right. I’ve always imagined shoe fetishists to be simply that way from early stages in their life, so what happened with richard threw me a little bit.
Slightly further on, I found that richard didn’t find the act of being intimate with shoes in any way humiliating - he simply saw it as humble service. I guess my favourite brand of shoe fiend has had a lifelong weakness for shoes and yet somewhat dreads them and finds them intimidating (or ‘menacing’ as one male fetish creature I used to speak so put it one time).
Real life experience has shown me that my ‘fears’ were unwarranted. My focus moved slightly off of the shoe/boot theme, making the specific things I was looking for in a fetishist and kink playmate less important. And our shoe scenes together were still just as hot as if Richard was a raving shoeshine boy since birth.
Have I created a genuine fetish in Richard? Has he helped me broaden my horizons and transmutate the powerplay of footwear into something more universal? Fetishes are blind, senseless creatures and as my story shows, it pays poorly to pay much attention to them. Enjoy them, yes, but don’t let them shape your destiny or restrict you.
Comments
Well you know me, my life seems to be partly a lifelong sexual growth and adaptation.
You were so demanding a couple of times that I did get to know the dark side of boot worship. Of course being kinky me I treasured the blister on my lip while it lasted.
Posted by: Richard | October 5, 2005 8:43 PM
I find that I begin to enjoy whatever my Domme enjoys, and that’s not just because I am trying to be good or polite or whatever. It’s just that so much of my motivation is centered on her enjoyment and pleasure that my main fetish (meta-fetish??) is going along for the ride into whatever fantasy pushes her buttons. So as her preferences feed into her reactions, her behavior gets me hot and bothered, and therefore imprints her preferences rather deeply into my submissively pliable brain.
Posted by: jp | October 7, 2005 4:46 PM
Good answers!
Posted by: Alexandra | October 8, 2005 6:01 PM
Hello Ms Alexandra Ma’am, this boy just found Your wonderful blog Ma’am. he would just like to mention, how he never had a shoe fetish but since his first encounter with a Domme, where he was made to kiss Her feet, he now absolutely needs, craves to kiss the feet of whoever is Dominating him, so altho, maybe he doesn’t have a fetish, he cannot live without kissing a Dommes feet/shoes, Ma’am. Thank You very much for such an exciting blog Ms Alexndra Ma’am, whore boy
Posted by: whore boy | November 26, 2005 4:43 AM