Strap-on Play
• Fetishes
I never thought this would be anything I’d consider, and it’s certainly idiosyncratic territory for a pre-operative transsexual. I’m still not sure how it will feel because I’ve never had the desire to use my… whatever-it-is to screw anyone.
This is why using a strap-on makes it different. Since I enjoy using my body rhythmically and doing intense things to my lover I think it has the potential to be good for us, and I’m excited that it may lead to some very deep experiences.
The fact that it’s an object makes it more impersonal and objectifying for him as well as more appropriate for me, which gives the act a powerful symmetry. Since he’s expressed an interest and wondered if it will be an avenue of submission for him I feel like I should try it at least once.
Comments
That’s an incredibly open viewpoint and I applaud it. I hope you two have a lot of fun with it!
Posted by: maymay | March 1, 2007 9:19 PM
Thanks :)
Posted by: Alexandra | March 2, 2007 12:50 AM
Hooray for faux phalluses!
Posted by: roo-roo | March 2, 2007 8:31 PM
I’m not sure if I’m too late for these comments to be relevant, but…
I am a straight male and I am dating (monogamous, committed). Obviously as a straight male my role within my sex life is pretty well defined, and don’t get me wrong, I love it. My partner beneath me as I am penetrating her is a wonderful feeling. But I would love to play the role-reversal game. And I think this (within the context of a male/female hetero relationship) is becoming more and more accepted and known.
I would love for my lover to use a strap on and take the dominant role. The idea of submission/losing control and being penetrated is something that I would love to try. This seems to be oddly inverse (literally!) to your situation but I think it’s merely the reversal that stimulates
Posted by: talpy | July 26, 2007 10:56 AM