D/s Spiders!
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I hope everyone in the UK watched David Attenborough’s program last night on spiders, the photography and sound recording is amazing!
We all know about the Black Widow spider who eats her mate after copulating, but this was a different spider, the name of which I did not catch.
Anyway, the male approaches the female very cautiosly and “begins stroking her legs and kissing her toes” (a phrase that provided much tittilation for me!). After a while he creates a guitar string out of a strand of silk and begins to pluck it to serenade her. Eventually they shag and she wraps him up, ready to be eaten later.
In a lot of these nature programs you see the male risking his life to impress the female. In an earlier episode a male butterfly was flying through a somewhat ferocious waterfall to score.
I do not believe in mandatory chivalry, despite my enjoyment of it. I do think a lot of the thrill of D/s comes from the symbolic resonance it has with our more natural and animalistic past, almost like an extinct instinct coming alive again after lying dormant for millennia. This is a topic I’d like to expand on a lot in the future.
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“spiders” … i can’t stand them … and detest them … and yet … see so much symbolism in the spider and its web and its tactic of “lying in wait” for its prey … the entanglement and “bondage” of the webbing-strands and cocooning … and the fear of the victim then so helpless as he simply awaits the approach of the spider …
ahh . . there is so much erotic here … (if only i could get past the fact that i find spiders so repulsive.)
Posted by: michael g.b. | December 10, 2005 4:52 PM
I feel exactly the same way :)
I often wonder, do the creatures who are caught in the web get scared and if so, how much? Being simply a part of nature in my eyes is the ultimate hell. Eat or be eaten. Nature is only ‘beautiful’ to those who say it is because they don’t have to live it!
Posted by: Alexandra | December 11, 2005 5:39 PM
Alexandra, I LOVE your and Richards sites. You are an amazing woman. We are all female at the onset then the metamorphosis occurs in there womb that determines our final gender. Sometimes our bodies and our minds take different paths and we must try and bring them together to a common place so that they both meet and fulfill who we are and have become. The variations of gender vary from xy, to xx, xyy, xxy, and many other variations. to be a feminine male and or a masculine female does not make us freaks or abnormal, we are simply different individuals.
I am thankful that in the 21st century we have a way to join our mental self with our physical self to appease our perception of who we feel we should be. You are a lovely lady and richard is lucky to have found you, much as you are lucky to have found him.
Relationships take work to work. Being lazy and neglecting each other is a fatal mistake that we oftentimes make. I love reading a blog that allows personal communication and introspection to be seen not only for each other but for others who wish to look in your window and take a glimpse of your life. My voyeuristic nature loves it….. keep up the good work.
Ms Contradiction
Posted by: Contradiction | January 2, 2006 2:59 PM
Thanks :)
You got me thinking with that thing about the chromosomes - if only they taught that at school, maybe relations would improve overall. It’s a real shame - I really wish more people would realize it. I suppose things are getting better at least.
And it’s funny how if the default is female, why are we collectively called “Mankind”? I’m sure there’s some kind of rational explanation :)
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, I hope you’ll stick around.
Posted by: Alexandra | January 3, 2006 2:37 AM