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Constructing Our Perfect D/s Agreement

First ideas towards the contract.

August 7, 2007

Fear Of The Drop

The threat of topdrop, not something I've come to know too well, but I tasted it the other day.

May 18, 2007

Male Suffering in Song

Sexy songs about men who are sad, at their wit's end, or in some form of anguish, tickle my sadistic spot in a pleasant way.

May 17, 2007

Emotional Sadism

Emotional sadism is the counterpart to emotional masochism. It is the desire to cause emotional pain in a controlled way (rather like how corporal punishment causes physical pain)

Obsessed? Me?!

Am I too obsessed with causing pain and humiliation? Too obsessed with erotic power exchange?

May 11, 2007

Aftercare For The Dominant

Dominants need aftercare too!

May 8, 2007

The Politics of Pain

Some jumbled thoughts on our frequent mini-play sessions of late, and the different types of pain and sadism which can occur.

April 29, 2007

Selfish Sadness

The selfish and dark side to being a sensual sadist.

April 15, 2007

Psychic Orgasm

Shared bliss created by light pain and pleasure.

What Honorific?

Finding the right honorific is an important first step in D/s ritual, though other honorifics may be employed to spice things up.

April 1, 2007

Fetishes and Frustration

Kinky entertainment for when you can't quite go there in person.

March 30, 2007

Chastity and Teasing

I look forwards to teasing my love slave when he is locked in a chastity belt that only I can open.

March 5, 2007

Being Told What to Do

My thoughts on being told what to do during sex, S+M and BDSM

February 26, 2007

Degradation.... For the Hell of It

I'm becoming more interested in forcing my pet to do things that used to squick me out a little bit.

February 7, 2007

Nighttime Daydreaming

The daydreams of a sadist

January 18, 2007

On Human Footstools

On the joys of human footstools.

January 1, 2007

Dealing with Pain

The beginning of my hair lasering therapy gets me thinking about pain.

December 24, 2006

Trampling Without Submission or Pain?

I have an online friend who likes to be trampled but doesn't like pain, objectification or humiliation.

October 4, 2006

Top Drop or Inertia?

We are having some trouble igniting our kinky, BDSM aspects since we have been reunited over two weeks ago.

March 30, 2006

Enjoying Passivity

A role reversal of sorts

March 18, 2006

Expanding My Territory

I know everything I do well, so now I want to expand my D/s horizons

January 20, 2006

Awakening

I'm beginning to miss playing with my plaything and pet. It took me a while to miss D/s

January 19, 2006

Visions of Boredom

What does it mean if your slave looks bored?

January 16, 2006

On Forcing Myself to Write

On fighting the simple barrier mechanism which tries to prevent me writing about my erotic fantasy life and my dark and kinky side.

January 14, 2006

Mismatched Desires - From My Side

The complications of combining 'normal' and kinky relations examined in more detail.

January 6, 2006

Spaces Below Me

How I percieve the states that I take my slave through in a typical D/s session.

November 6, 2005

Acting vs Performing, the Roleplaying Hinge

The difference in my mind between acting and performing, and an explanation of how I feel about them both.

September 27, 2005

Erotic Dominance and Personality

What correlation, if any, lies between sexual dominance and performance in everyday life?

September 12, 2005

Neglected Pet?

Life's a bitch, so why aren't I being one?

August 26, 2005

99%

My submissive clearly wants more, more, more... ;)

August 12, 2005

Desire to be Dominant, Fluctuations Thereof

How lack of sleep and worrying about tricky decisions and things beyond my control can dull my sexual dominance and attitude in general.

August 9, 2005

Absence of Wanting to be Dominant

One night my desire for being dominant completely stopped, in the middle of a D/s scene.

July 30, 2005

Suffering the Loss

The loss of Richard's ex lover has sent our kink life slightly stale, but we are slowly coming to terms with the loss and preparing for the future.

July 26, 2005

Soft Control and the Erotic Spectrum

When I am being dominant I like to explore the full range of dominance, from gentle control all the way to pure sadism.

July 3, 2005