Absence of Wanting to be Dominant
• Headspaces
A curious thing happened the other night - I was whipping Richard, when I suddenly lost all desire to feel dominant or be sadistic. While there have been periods where I’ve not gone into kinkspace for over a week, I have never been in a situation where I lost the urge in mid-do.
All of the things and semi-rituals were in place that I associate with a long night of reigning over my slave, but I bowed out graciously. As I returned to feeling my normal ‘vanilla’ sex drive, I noticed the feelings of dominance creeping back in.
Curiouser and curiouser…
As I suggested to Richard the other day, sometimes my kinky dominance comes from knowing that I am sexually attractive. This leads interestingly down other paths of thought: the different ways and constructs in which one can become dominant - some through feeling sexual power, others through simply being a very dominant person to begin with, and any shade inbetween.
Comments
I think dominance emerging from feeling energized, empowered - e.g., attractive - is a mark of sanity. And I’m so glad you have such gift for transitioning in and out of the mode.
Posted by: Richard | August 1, 2005 1:29 PM