Constructing Our Perfect D/s Agreement
• Headspaces
Or ‘contract’, to risk bringing about the fabled curse of the D/s contract.
The contract will be tiered, with two or three levels of surrender (loss of control), and of course the ‘null’ state which will account for all of the time we are not actively engaging in D/s.
We will have to work on this together, so it will take a while. We have done a lot of talking together before we parted, and will have to refine our ideas over the internet.
So far we’ve talked about expanding the caning, since pet wants a little more out of it and I’m all for it. To spend longer in top/bottom space we need to get some more communication going. Pet has suggested a day of ‘structured topping from the bottom’ so I can help him become aware of his body and pain levels. I also want a day for unlimited impact play, so I can practice using the whips and floggers (yeah, purely for that reason folks, not because I like to see pet squirm)
Pet finds talking confusing when he’s deeply submissive (as I do when I get stoned sometimes), leading him out of slave space; and I find that I slip out of role if I make a simple mistake or get upset. These two points have cost us so much time so we should work on them. I’m going to have to get used to making the odd mistake, or dealing with something emotional, but not letting it instinctively throw me out of topspace.
As for pet spending time as my floor creature, we both want more more more of that, but I’m reluctant to add too many mandatory activities to each week. The rules should mainly be about letting me know when I can inflict myself on pet and to what measure. For example, the floor creature may be subjected to mild humiliation but something very humiliating or otherwise massively potent (such as leaving him tied to a stake in the garden overnight) would be talked about out-of-scene and agreed upon beforehand.
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We are turning a poem into prose. But with our shared love and passion, my happy adoration of you and the enjoyment we both experience I know we will continue to create beauty together.
Posted by: Richard | August 8, 2007 2:07 AM