Trampling Without Submission or Pain?
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There are some people out there who enjoy being walked on but insist that there is no submission involved in any way. I had one such online friend a long while ago and his re-appearance has reminded me of these kinds of people.
I used to role-play with him online and quickly noticed that he found certain things ‘demeaning’ such as pain and objectification. Since I don’t like recieving pain myself I can easily envision people who would want the intense feeling of being walked on but without pain. But I thought it almost inevitable that in permitting someone to walk on you there were those naughty but nice feelings of dominance and submission which go hand in hand and are, if handled correctly, completely harmless.
Perhaps such a person feels these feelings but doesn’t want to admit them, mistaking them for an actual lowering of self-esteem or estimation by those who know. Or maybe they are not strong enough to survive the idea of submission. What I enjoy about somebody like this is trying to push them, even if it is just an online fantasy, to see if you can get them to enjoy just a little bit of a submissive role, by way of certain actions. It’s a playful rather than forceful thing. As long as you make it clear that you are in some ways dominant from the outsett I think it can be expected that someone should be expected to be pushed a little if they spend time with you.
What may ultimately be at the crux of these people’s desires, though, is something akin to the effect of pressure in certain area causing a relaxation effect. I think this was discovered in cattle (where machines which handle them squeeze them in a certain way to make them relax) and exists in various permutations with humans. It could simply be a desire for pressure, but then why do such people specifically want it to be caused by the feet of the opposite sex and why do they delight in the trampler’s pleasure and interest in, for example, the noises you can get from a human rug.
As with everything to do with sexuality, it’s best not to assume or railroad people. Maybe there aren’t words to express sufficiently every possible kind of desire and the implicit meanings, values and symbols which operate on them.
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Alexandra:
Considering what I do (kink/fetish/femdom phonesex) and hearing all that I hear, I, too, contemplate upon what is going on behind the desire. And what I believe is many times in direct conflict with the caller’s perception of his own desires.
Certainly, I have no answers to any of this.
The only thing which seems to occur on a regular basis — that is IF the caller becomes a regular and we get to know each other — is that most fetishes and/or kinky desires really do have their root in puberty. Freud wasn’t as wrong as he’s been made out to be, evidently.
I could give you many examples, but in staying on topic (men who like trampling), three examples:
Thomas caught his catholic school teacher, who he had a crush on, putting out a cigarette with her high heel. He hadn’t even known she smoked. He masturbated that night to that scene, imagining her catching him “spying,” then making him lie down in that same alley where she proceded to walk on him, telling him what a “bad boy” he was while simultaneously smoking. His desires and fetishes grew from there.
Matthew actually hid under his mother’s table during one of her card parties and developed myriad fetishes, including upskirt, stockings, garters, high heels and feeling these women walk upon his penis. Which eventually grew into total body trampling.
Patrick’s sister actually would walk on his back in her bare feet when he had aches and pains from the various sports in which he participated. He began sexualizing it and has done so ever since.
Anyway…isn’t this business of being sexual, spiritual human being always and forever the greatest adventure ever?
Posted by: Angela St. Lawrence | October 4, 2006 10:21 PM
Thanks for that lengthy insight, Angela! I enjoyed reading it. I suppose conditioning is certainly a very powerful part of it.
Point one seems to explicitly involve submission and degradation, and point two seems to be a variant of ‘objectification’ to me - he is hiding and the women carry on asif he isn’t there combined with being in a low place where he sees the world of the floor and shoes which are inherently very feminine.
I can’t help but see a fantasy of having his penis trampled as some sort of abstract objectification or degradation (his most important body part is treated asif it’s not there in the trampling - surely very thrilling in a pervy way :)
Number three sounds like the ilk of the friend I mentioned in my post, unless of course he is HIDING SOMETHING :)… In which case he’d do best to learn more about himself and accept that his fantasies don’t neccecarily translate to real life and make him worthless. He did say he’d even hesitate to call it a fetish and he likes the ‘back popping’ side of it which makes me suspect he is a 3-type.
Posted by: Alexandra | October 4, 2006 10:36 PM
My apologies if this comment/query isn’t productive.
I’m starting to explore trampling/walking on people, and am wondering if you can recommend some safety resources. It’s not covered in any of the standard references that I can tell, and I am wondering what I should be watching out for (other than the obvious - don’t step on the xyphoid process; don’t stand anywhere you wouldn’t whip).
My thanks for any help.
Posted by: R | November 2, 2006 5:21 AM
R: I’m not aware of any good online guides to trampling, it beign such an apparently obscure fetish. So I decided to compile what I know in an entry:
http://www.sensualsadist.com/archives/bdsmpractices/adviceforstartingwith_.php
I know that at least some of it is just stuff that would be obvious to people like us.
If there are any specific questions you have I’ll do my best to help out, and I’m delighted that you’re going to give it a try and would love to know how you like it :)
Posted by: Alexandra | November 4, 2006 12:31 AM
im in a country town from australia i have tried every possible way to try to find women to walk on me but have not much luck i like it very much can you help
Posted by: holdenf | December 18, 2006 10:00 AM