My Dislike of Chains
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My dislike of chains is unfortunate, since they are such a staple of many BDSM activities. I can only describe the feeling as a dislike of certain types and shapes of metal chain over skin. While some chains don’t irk me much, others do. Richard bought some nipple clamps on a chain which I particularly disliked the look of. It’s not like it would stop me using them, but it’s certainly irksome, not least because I don’t have a clue why I feel this way. All I can suggest is that I am an unusual person. Certain shapes and textures and feelings bleed over into other sensual areas like a very mild synesthaesia.
This has never been a problem in my life, apart from one guy I went to bed with who was wearing one of those droopy chains, and I disliked the way it interfered with the continuity of his skin and drooped against my body, so I asked him to remove it while we were in bed.
Generally, the larger the links are and the more dull the finish, the less ‘offended’ my senses will be. There are a bunch of other rules to it to, I really don’t understand it, but who cares!
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You know, I don’t think I understood it was the chain on the nipple clamps that you don’t like. My only criterion for selecting them was price.
Some sort of heavy elastic would allow for more play in both senses of the word.
For something like bondage I certainly think heavier chains are sexier. I don’t particularly like the ones that I bought. I was just too impatient for someone to show up at Home Depot who’d cut better chain for me.
Posted by: Richard | September 23, 2005 7:46 PM
As a straight man, I enjoy seeing my lovely wife all dollied up in lace and jewelry and all that fashion frou-frou. The more the better. I’ve been brainwashed since I was young to equate “women plus lingerie equals sex”.
On the other hand, being a straight women, she likes muscle, skin, and a bit a body hair. Your phrase “interfered with the continuity of his skin” perfectly captures her opinion about male flesh and her preference for little or no adornment to interfere with her enjoyment of my body.
Posted by: jp | September 25, 2005 5:38 PM
Thanks jp, that’s interesting to know. I have never really liked necklaces on guys unless they are short and bordering on chokers. Always felt a bit weird about it so it’s nice to know I’m not the only one ;)
Posted by: Alexandra | September 25, 2005 6:51 PM
Mistress has a silver ID bracelet for her toy and it is engraved with “toy” on it when WE/we are in vanilla land Mistress dose not merely hold his hand or arm Mistress loops her finger in his ID bracelet !!!!…this is a discreet reminder of who WE/we are !!!
love it
Posted by: Mistress Jonie | November 19, 2005 3:00 PM
Hmm… i have a similar feeling about chains. if you ask me they should be the first thing to go when you slip into bed. they simply get in the way. nothing more nothing less… but then so do clothes. perhaps it is the way you wear them? Now quite frankly im a Master of (and i know this is always said but i cant help the cliche)the most beautiful woman in the world. In my eyes Helen of Troy was a hag next to her. Yet I digress… i dont mind wearing chains. but if I wear them wrong then they are nothing but a burden. Try wearing them in a way that demonstrates your most prized quality. I prize myself on an imposing and powerful nature. As such, when I wear chains i will wear heavy ones in an X along my chest crossing at my solar plexus and maybe one around my waist. If you prefer to be more feminine and submissive. try wearing thin ones (heavier material if weight helps you) in careful dips at an angle perhaps around your waist something like a belt only set it at an angle say with the left side a few inches higher than the right. Also one around the neck of similar proportions helps. Obviously i dont know all the details but I find reinforcing positive qualities makes them far more interesting and comfortable.
Posted by: Wolf | November 24, 2005 2:11 AM
Wolf, thanks for taking the time to leave a comment, but this is a site about female domination, and if you do it again I’ll throw an egg at you.
Seriously, I am holding the egg right now and I’m not afraid to throw it! And there are plenty more in the fridge. ;)
Posted by: Alexandra | November 29, 2005 9:52 PM