Collar Time and Scenes
• Our relationship
One of the main things that’s on my mind is getting pet in his collar and leash more. Retrospectively I’m almost kicking myself that I didn’t do it more on our last visit, but we have made a lot of progress since then. The truth is that we both want it, so the only sane thing to do is take it.
One way I’ve been thinking about this is by thinking less in terms of scening. Whilst it is practical to call our D/s exchanges scenes after the event or in general, I don’t think like that in realtime. By allowing ourselves to enjoy our pet/owner and Goddess/slave sides without thinking of the expectation of a scene I think we will end up ‘scening’ more :)
I’m looking forwards to hours of getting my own way like this. I’ve always wanted a lover who would take off his clothes (or at least his top :) and sit on the floor on my leash and stare up at me. I’ll keep a cane or flogger handy whenever we’re making out, and experiment a whole lot more with bondage in all areas of our sex life.
I suppose in some ways I am hoping to find the courage to be myself more intensely, or I feel that I am going that way already. That’s not to say I’m turning my back on the vanilla side of life, but more like forgetting the distinctions and enjoying the full spectrum in the way that makes me (and hopefully my pet and lover ;) feel right.
Comments
That makes sense. I really enjoy when that line is blurred. With friends, it’s often looked at in terms of scene/non-scene time, but in a relationship, getting rid of that distinction really makes things interesting.
Posted by: roo-roo | March 1, 2007 1:07 AM
Exactly. That’s what we’re hoping to pull off. I think it’s what we need, to some degree at least, so we’ll take it easy.
Posted by: Alexandra | March 2, 2007 12:40 AM