Richard v2.0
• Our relationship
Richard has told me he’s gravitating towards spending more time away from the computer to concentrate on his health. People familiar with us know that his last relationship left him somewhat shattered and in much worse shape than when he entered into it. Obviously I’m very pleased for him since not only will it be good for him but it will allow him to better serve my needs as a slave.
In fact, now that the seeds are sown we both agree that I should help him maintain the right course. I don’t know how much this could overlap with our kink-life since we haven’t discussed it properly but it’s an interesting idea.
I know it can be distressing when real life and D/s mix in some negative ways, for example, punishing him for a real-life failing outside of D/s expectations… At least that is how I percieve it. It’s always slightly disturbing when a submissive writes “fat useless fuckc to kick around” since you wonder if you’re contributing to the perpetuation of a mental illness.
But back to us… My initial thought is that I should deal with any resistance as his girlfriend, albeit a somewhat bossy one, rather than getting it involved with D/s (even though it does sound fun!). My motvation behind this is that being assertive outside of kinkspace can reinforce your role in the proverbial bedroom and it’s good to have the situation diffused into real life and not just compartmentalized in an erotic box.
Secondly, I don’t think Richard will need much prompting or punishment now that he’s somewhat over the initial inertia caused by his cataclysmic last relationship.
However, I really want this for both of us, and I’m willing to do anything that works. We agreed right from the beginning that I’d help him in this area, but things just didn’t work out since we were both going through unanticipated stress. Also there’s a point where you just can’t force these things and you just have to wait for a better time. Things are different for both of us now and I am certainly more confident and assertive than when we first met.
Perhaps I can incorporate it into D/s in the form of positive things such as using exercise in a D/s setting - getting him to do a suitable exercise a set number of times before he can worship my feet, for example.
Comments
I did some of this with a submissive at one point. one of my favorites was to have him do push-ups and kiss my foot with each one. exercise can be a chore, so anything that happens to make it more enjoyable certainly won’t hurt. You’ll find your stride, and keep that sweet boy of yours in line, I’m sure!
Posted by: Myles | November 22, 2006 6:56 AM
Took me a bit to think this through.
I have lots of practical experience - hard as it may seem to believe - in doing this the right way.
So maybe after I explain, help you understand what I should be doing you would then use your will to assist my currently weak will to insure that I am doing what will make me healthier.
Posted by: Richard | December 8, 2006 10:04 PM
That sounds like a good plan to me sweetie. Knowing that it’s invariably for your own good will help me be 100% assertive with it.
Posted by: Alexandra | December 8, 2006 10:21 PM