Cheap Shots or Lazy Readers?
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Yeah, keep ‘em coming, suckers. I’m wondering if people actually read my writing properly or if they come pre-decided that they are going to pick holes in me and decide I’m a bad person.
OK… I’m a mean, bad, nasty, evil, tryannical person and poor Richard was actually forced to write all those nice things about me at gunpoint! It’s true! I’ll confess everything!
If you know how much Richard sometimes begs me to be brutal with him and my gentleness almost gets in the way, you’d realize how idiotic it sounds to call me barbaric or brutal. If people keep trying to make me feel guilty about the fact that I do things such as hit Richard repeatedly with a stick, I may eventually either stop writing entirely or start banning comments. (Ya volt!)
If you want to question me about my relationship, read up on it first. It is a complicated thing. Everybody has their own way of doing D/s so if you disagree please try and be nice now ;)
Comments
As I’ve said to you in chat I don’t think the people who’ve left hostile comments actually read the entry they were commenting on.
And certainly didn’t try to understand our love.
Posted by: Richard | January 21, 2006 11:19 PM
Sane people don’t think you’re tyranical.
I am a woman who likes to be tortured and I know the difference between fulfilling fantasies and abuse. You’re not abusive. Play-acting sexual fantisies (especially if the pain is real but not harmful) takes time and effort. To do it carefully and with an eye toward what will please your slave the most takes love.
My husband is aroused by our games, especially bondage and teasing. But the pain part makes him nervous. I’m glad it does, but I also glad his willing to do it for me.
None of this means he is a domineering husband. If anything I’m a domineering woman—out in the real world that is. Many so-called submissives are far from submissive outside the world of sexual play. Even when haveing “vanilla” sex (and that’s mostly what we have) I know what I want and I see that I get it.
If Richard didn’t want to be hit I would be horrified. But he does want it and you give it to him. You are a good and loving wife.
Posted by: Blue | January 22, 2006 12:40 AM
Thanks, Blue. I’m glad you stepped in to help get rid of the bad smell. Richard certainly isn’t a pushover in real life either. I think submissives are by nature (the healthy ones anyway) quite strong and that is part of the equation that makes them how they are.
Posted by: Alexandra | January 22, 2006 12:55 AM
I guess that I simply have not been reading the same messages that others have.
I don’t that you are bad, nasty or evil — a little stern and sadistic maybe, but clearly you are being so with someone who wants you to be.
If I had one word to say for your postings, it would be “Kudos”, as you are clearly doing it right.
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Posted by: Cuhulin | January 22, 2006 3:59 AM
Thanks for the clarification, Cuhulin. I didn’t have a problem with your questioning as it was respectul and non-assuming.
Posted by: Alexandra | January 22, 2006 11:46 PM