Tales of the Unremarkable
• People
It’s funny how posting a picture of yourself on the Internet wearing PVC and thigh highs, wielding a whip can sort of give you special privelages like the ability to recieve a slow, steady flow of genuinely unremarkable declarations of surrender, to be called Mistress and of course to hear about all those fascinating desires that men have.
You could say in a way it’s almost like getting x-ray specs, only nowhere near as interesting or rewarding as that! ;)
All I can do is point them to: How to Woo a Domme Online and hope - for their sake (since none of this will ever affect me anyway) that it clicks.
I’m tempted to say that if someone can’t follow those guidelines out of a sense of wanting to do it - for the sake of those ideas of submission themselves - then chances are they probably don’t have it in them to be a submissive. Though given the complexity of human nature that is probably a little unfair.
I would love to know if any subbies out there have tried Richard’s list of ideas and had a change of luck for the better? I’m also wondering if some people want to be submissive but simply ‘can’t’ - like having an itch on a phantom limb.
One thing I do know is that, contrary to some media stereotypes, being submissive (or Dominant for that matter) requires good communication and social skills (especially those who have multiple play partners - I sometimes wonder how they juggle all of those emotions - or perhaps they become emotionally detatched from their subbies but I couldn’t imagine that).
Sometimes I wonder what the cause of ‘false submissive’ emails is. Do they not try hard enough, or are they simply barking up the wrong tree? Maybe they just need advice? I think it is certainly a good idea to try and politely let them know what they are doing wrong, if it seems at all worthwhile.
Comments
Erotic desperation distorts people. That religions have encouraged so much sexual falsity may be the biggest indictment that can be made of them.
Many of these guys have waited way to long to try to realize their needs. The same could almost be said of me. But I have several sexualities unlike most people. And very best of all I have you to enjoy my adoration of you.
That is the kind interpretation.
From what vanilla women on dating sites say there are just a lot of horny men who think sending a woman a photo of their penis is a way to court a woman.
In BDSM these guys offer “anything” as long as it is anything that turns them on.
Their blind selfishness just about insures they’ll never get what they want or think they want.
Posted by: Richard | January 15, 2006 2:17 AM