Sensual Sadist

to be the gatekeeper of his bodily energies, to be able to charge him up like a battery until he becomes hopelessly easy to control by my look and my touch.

Oh my!

Many years ago I ran across the Altarboy website, and wondered “Most people spend so much energy trying to get laid; who the hell would want to NOT want to?”

But over the next couple of years I found myself surfing back to that site to read the stories and descriptions of the various devices. At some point I was hooked; I started building my own cock cages, and at some point I ‘fessed up to my wife and we tried them out.

A few years ago we got into it a bit more seriously (you can read some of that on my blog), and we began using the CB3000. My wife soon developed her own fetish for denial and chastity, and describes it much like you do: she enjoys having me keyed up for her.

I’ve written about this fairly extensively elsewhere, and at some point I really should be setting it out on my own blog. But it’s a “scene” that can take place 24/7, and doesn’t require much in the way of equipment. We regard it as “bondage lite”, in that when I’m wearing the device, it’s a constant reminder of her control.

We haven’t used the device since my piercing this summer, but it’s healed up pretty well, and so over the holidays I’m supposed to be modifying the cage so that the frenum barbell can be used to enhance the security of the device.

Don’t hesitate to ask if you have any questions on chastity in general or in specific.

Tom Allen
The Edge of Vanilla

Thanks, Tom, I’ll bear that in mind. I would be interested to hear your take on chastity since we seem to agree on it’s utility and fun in a kinky relationship.

I definitely agree with what you said about harnessing his energy and charging him like a battery. Chastity has a very tangible effect on the sub’s demeanor, one which I think you’ll both get something out of.

However, from my experience, the emotional bond and mutual shows of affection are even more important than usual when chastity is added to the equation. You seem to share lots of those, so I doubt that’ll be a problem. Chastity can put the lockee in a vulnerable headspace.

Many people I’ve talked with (myself included) can sometimes get a bit grumpy after a while during periods of chastity. Attention and affection can help alleviate this, but it’s still something to be prepared for.

You seem to be interested in this for very good reasons, unlike many others who take the “if I lock him up, he’ll do all the housework” approach. Many try to use chastity to change who their partner is or otherwise take advantage of them….but since you’re already happy with each other, this stands a much better chance of working.

Will this be a 24/7 thing, or will it be intermittent periods of chastity? (for example, a few weeks locked up constantly, then a week of freedom, etc.) If it’s the latter, then milking won’t be medically necessary. Milking is also difficult in my experience; I haven’t even been able to do it myself. Others have had success though, so whether or not that’ll work for you is hard to say. I think it’s a very hot idea though.

Tom is right about it being a scene that stretches to 24/7, as well as about the cage being a portable reminder of the one holding the key. I thoroughly enjoy the bondage aspect of it, struggling in vain to get a little relief. It’s like having her hand there to physically block me. Yowza.

Given my current emotional space feeling grumpy isn’t likely. For various reasons that go beyond D/s orgasm control is more likely to elevate my mood. At least for a time and she and I have discussed what seems like a mutually satisfactory way to conclude phases of chastity.

roo-roo and I seem to be in agreement on the concept, and I just posted in DOMK that - for some of us - merely the imaginary is not sufficient; a piece of yarn around the shaft (as I’ve seen suggested elsewhere) mioght be enough to “remind” one not to masturbate, but having a real, tangible, secure device serves to eroticize the experience by making it a constant reminder.

For some, the triumph of the will “proves” their submissiveness. For me, wearing a device - especially after modifying it to make it more secure - is about the eroticism behind the lack of control.

An out-of-the-box CB3000 isn’t secure enough for a lot of men. I modified mine several times to make it more secure, i.e., masturbation-proof.

Virtually any chastity device can be “defeated” by a small proportion of men; none of them will prevent orgasm in 100% of wearers, but they can all be rigged to make it very, very difficult.

In fact, I now have a frenum piercing which we’re going to utilize (as soon as I work out the details) for that purpose. The general consensus is that even unsecure devices can be enhanced by using a piercing (usually a PA).

That’s mostly technical stuff, though, and I imagine that you’re looking for something else. If you’re interested, I can dig up some more of my old Yahoo group posts for you.

Tom Allen
The Edge of Vanilla

Tom, you really make me regret that I didn’t develop those kinds of practical skills.

While Alexandra is probably mostly interested in he psychology (I’m in charge of the Dept. of Fiddly Stuff) There’s no doubt she’s glad to read what you have to share.

Many thanks.

Thanks, Tom. I’m sure some point in the future we will need it :)

(the bit about making the device more secure made me chuckle for some reason)

Tom How will you incorperate the frenum pierce into the 3000. I have a Curve and 3000 and an addition I bought with some rubber “prongs” but have thought long and hard (sorry) about a frenum. Glueing eyes on the outside? Shaft going thru the pierce and locked …? Curious. Also a photo diary of home made devices including a nasty KTB - easy to make. Tom

Tom, I haven’t quite worked out the details yet. I’m using a 10g barbell that is 5/8” between the 1/4” dia balls. I think that if I get a thin O-ring that is about 5/8” dia on the outside, it should nestle between the balls. Then I could attach another thin but large diameter O-ring (about 3” I’m guessing) to the smaller one and feed it through the center slot.

The larger ring should be flexible enough to loop around the cage and into the lock. The idea is to leave enough room to flex and move inside the cage for normal cleaning, etc., but to not allow it to pull back far enough to escape.

This way, I could eliminate the spacer that I made to prevent pull-out (it hurts when I’m aroused because it digs in).

I’ve only just started to attempt wearing the cage again, and I’ve been making small modifications to facilitate cleaning and the eventual use of the O-rings. I’m hoping to work it out in the next couple of months.

Tom
The Edge of Vanilla