My Definition of a Human Pet
• Psychology Of Domination
This was a note I posted on fetishlore towards the end of my stay.
I was doing a thought experiment on pet play, trying to imagine what gives it it’s charm. At first I thought it was some kind of degradation thing, and while that may come into it a little bit, I don’t think it’s the centerpiece of what makes pet play so special.
A long while ago I imagined what it would be like to go crawling into the other room to visit Richard. Yeah, so shoot me. A dom imagining the submissive role! Someone call the cops!
While it isn’t for me, I learned a little from it. I don’t know if this works for other people but for me pet play is about perspective.
Suppose you love someone. You enjoy looking at them. To improve your view of the person you love you may do things to enhance your experience with them. You may give them clothes that flatter them, or take them to a beautiful place so that the beauty of the location is reflected in your love.
Pet play is more like the latter, but it’s a changing of perspective. By viewing somebody as a pet you are not only physically looking up at them, but you are emotionally looking up to them. Imagine if you could view your lover as a larger-than-life goddess (or god) - that is what I think pet play does in our relationship (and certainly in my imagination!).
That’s why we haven’t really gotten ‘round to any of the literal pet play stuff - the training, barking, fetching… Just the activities which create the larger-than-life perspective and no more are used. Hand feeding, walking at my heel, staying on the floor evoke the perspective without any unnecessary complications.
We tend to call this style of play the ‘human pet’ since some of the animal-like mannerisms and activities (barking, etc) are dropped.
Comments
Hi Alexandra, nicely said. i feel the same way. i like this ‘human’ pet angle you have…i hate barking… mmm like fetch though. The way you describe is how we play too. i’ve never really thought about it, so thanks. Hope all is well. chance
Posted by: chance | July 24, 2007 8:22 AM
Hi Alexandra.
I love you discussion of this. And agree with all of it. Pet Play can be a very loving expression of intimate devotion. Thank you so much. You are an awesome person in so very many ways that it is true joy to get to know you and learn more about you.
xo, Angela
Posted by: Angela St. Lawrence | July 24, 2007 11:36 PM
Thanks chance and Angela! This was a nice suprise.
Chance, I’m glad I decided to post it… Sometimes I have thoughts and wonder which ones I should blog about :)
Angela, you made me blush! A blushing sadist. Can you imagine it? :)
Posted by: Alexandra | July 26, 2007 3:48 PM