Affirmations Beyond D/s
• Rules and Punishments
A while ago Richard told me it might be good if he had a set of affirmations which he could use outside of ‘play’ to establish a continuous potential of submission or to make it easier to get into the submissive frame of mind when required.
Shortly afterwards I came up with a good idea which kills two birds with one stone. Well I thought it was clever anyway :)
If you’re a regular reader of this site you’ve probably read Richard’s more voluminous weblog and know how his life decayed to almost ruin-status during his relationship with manic but charming Charles. Sadly it got to the stage where his personal hygene left some to be desired.
I vowed to ‘whip him into shape’ but the reality was more complicated than that. Of course he washes when I ask him to, but constantly having to nag is a bore for both of us. My idea is to make basic washing after any encounter with dirt part of his ownership ritual. After using the toilet or doing some other messy thing (like cleaning up blasted cat vomit), I’m expecting him to go wash and bear in mind some mental statement as to why he is washing. Something to the effect of:
I am washing my hands because they are dirty and anything dirty is not good enough for my owner and displeases Her.
should be effective enough. It’ll have to work on an honour system but there can still be punishments if need be.
I think pet should start doing this ASAP so that it’s already entrenched upon my return in a few fortnights. Also honey if you can let me know if it can be tweaked to be more effective for you I’d appreciate it. Maybe if I send him the instructions hand-written by post or something like that it will be more effective?
Comments
“I think pet should start doing this ASAP”
Ha! Beloved Alexandra, I do believe I’ve known more than a few men who would benefit from such training.
They really are “pets” in so many ways, aren’t they? Although cats and dogs tend to be more hygenic when it’s all said and done.
tsk. tsk.
Posted by: Angela St. Lawrence | October 4, 2006 10:36 PM
Hahaha! Well his pet days in that respect are numbered.
Posted by: Alexandra | October 4, 2006 11:25 PM
Interesting.
My current pet’s dental hygiene left something to be desired (the poor dear really should go see a dentist but can’t afford to right now).
Now when I ask him “Were you a good boy today?”, and ask him to explain how, “I brushed my teeth” is right there in the list with kneeling in the morning as prescribed; not masturbating without permission; etc.
Probably the most submissive thing my pet has ever done was let me floss his teeth once or twice early in our relationship to show him how to do it properly.
I don’t eroticize dentistry, but a clean fresh mouth is so much nicer, particularly in a pet who likes licking things.
Posted by: R | October 5, 2006 8:02 PM
Hi R, nice to see you again! I think most definately personal hygene is important in a submissive, but Richard does have a good excuse since I witnessed what he was coping with in his prior relationship and it wasn’t pretty.
Posted by: Alexandra | October 5, 2006 9:38 PM
“And it feels so good to please in all areas.. it feels good to her and because of this, it feels so good to me.” Part of every affirmation my fella has.
Words are so powerful. I think you’ll be surprised at the change when you arrive.
Wonderful job Alexandra :)
Posted by: Lady Julia | October 6, 2006 7:16 PM
Oh, we like that Lady Julia :)
I’m going to have to get him to learn that one forwards and backwards and train him to say it under /any/ conditions (I’m sure you know what I mean…)
Posted by: Alexandra | October 7, 2006 1:45 AM